How do I know which diet to choose?
South Beach. Vegan. Atkins. Ideal Protein. Keto. Paleo. Whole30. Plant Based. Vegetarian. Blood Type. Raw. Fasting. Juice Cleanses. The list goes on!! And yet, there’s still no definitive answer out there that can tell you which one is best. Want to know why that is? Because every single human body is wired differently, so what might work for one person, may not work at all for another person. But more importantly…
Who actually wants to be on a diet? Pretty much no one. No one really wants to put foods on a ‘no fly list,’ because food is awesome! Food is delicious. Food feeds us physiologically and emotionally. Food brings people together. And, more obviously, we need food to survive. Without it, we’ll die.
If it isn’t obvious yet, you won’t be getting a green light from me to start your next fad diet. What I will provide you with, though, is some knowledge about why I am so anti-dieting.
Have you ever heard of the phrase diet mentality? How about boundary setting?
So what is a diet mentality, you ask? Some researchers have said that a diet mentality is actually created by the act of dieting itself, and can be described as a self-destructive pattern of thinking and behaving. A couple of examples:
All of these have something in common, restrictive behavior. In addition to that, this type of behavior is one that typically cannot be maintained, which can [and usually does] lead to a vicious cycle of shame, guilt and more restriction, deprivation and will-power issues.
Now, let me be clear that there are definitely situations where restriction or abstaining is necessary – for example food allergies [not to be confused with food intolerances], medical situations, etc. But for your average person who does not have to worry about those things, there is actually a way to reduce or even abstain from certain types of foods in a healthy way – and this – is called boundary setting.
I will point out the key factor in boundary setting. Verbiage. You know, the way that you say something. You may be asking yourself how describing something could possibly help you lose weight… So here are two major tidbits of information for you to chew over.
While we are at it, let’s take the concept of empowering statements and apply it to the reason you’ve put yourself on a diet to begin with. Go ahead, make a list of the reasons why you are on a diet – and be honest. Get down and deep into the nitty gritty, and then take a look at your list and circle which reasons come from a place of life-affirming intentions rather than life-depleting intentions. If your list is predominantly life-depleting, it may be time to reevaluate some things – and there’s no better way to do that than with the help of a coach. For more on this topic, shoot us an email at firstname.lastname@example.org!
* If you have a few minutes, watch this funny video about diets. Head to your Facebook account, and search ‘bachelor diet.’ Look for a video shared by Eat To Perform, by Leann and Michelle *